August 11, 2012 -- This week the Stonewall Democrats
of San Antonio announced that the keynote speaker for their annual awards
banquet on September 22 at the Hilton Palacio del Rio will be Kate Clinton.
The last time Clinton was in San Antonio was in 2009 for an Equality Texas
event. That same year she penned an opinion piece for QSanAntonio that
is still topical today.
Commentary: Gay visibility requires
By Kate Clinton, QSanAntonio.com, June 27, 2009
On an early morning flight from Orlando, after appearing at the 19th Annual
Gay Days at Disneyworld, I was "sirred" twice by a cab driver
and flight attendant. All before 7 a.m. I would have thought the brand
new faux leopard Croc flats I was sporting would have thrown them off.
Or that the "Gay Day" banners everywhere would have heightened
their threat levels to rainbow.
Usually I find mistaken identification an embarrassment or irritant. In
past years I would correct quickly with "That’s M’am
not Sir," and then try to lessen their discomfort. But this 40th
anniversary of Stonewall, I wear the gaffe as a badge of pride. I stare
them down. Even if they seem remorseful, I don’t help them through
their moment. In solidarity with the unsung butch lesbians who were with
the fags and drag queens at the Stonewall Riots in Greenwich Village in
1969, I have been doing my own version of butching it up.
It used to be hard to find a New York gay person of a certain age who
did not claim to have been at the Stonewall Riots. I am a New Yorker of
that certain age, but I most certainly was not at the Stonewall Riots.
In 1969 I had just graduated from a small Jesuit college in upstate New
York. Insert "Class of 69" joke here.
I was a member of the Gay Resistance. I was trying not to come out. Because
of that resistance, I could not and then would not hear the news of gay
liberation spreading upstate from Greenwich Village. Though pre-internet,
the Stonewall message quickly reached upstate gays in the anti-Vietnam
war, women’s liberation and civil rights movement. Before long even
my little town in upstate New York had out gay activists organizing, educating
And they had the best parties. At one I met a brilliant lesbian Political
Science professor, fired from her tenured job because of her anti-war
activism. Hesitantly, I invited her and her partner over for dinner in
the apartment that by then I "shared with a teacher friend".
On the apartment tour, before I could point out my bedroom, she gleefully
yelled to her partner, "Here’s the fake bedroom!" Perhaps
it was my cinder block bed with the Indian bedspread that tipped her off.
With my don’t ask, don’t tell cover blown by my out and outrageous
new lesbian friends, I slowly began to come out. First to my girlfriend
at the time, to more friends and then to family. Finally, to make up for
lost time, I just grabbed a microphone and have yapped about it for twenty-eight
Of course there had been gays and lesbian activists in the in the 1950s
and early 60s: The Mattachine Society, The Daughters of Bilitis, The Society
of Individual Rights, the North American Homophile Organization. I am
in awe of their courage. The rage and outrage of the Stonewall Inn fags,
butch dykes and drag queens, who had finally had enough, kicked the courage
of early gay activists to another level of visibility.
Back in the day, only 25 percent of my generation came out before the
age of eighteen. It was 31 percent in the generation after me. Today 57
percent come out before the age of eighteen. Our challenge today is certainly
to transform gay visibility into LGBT action. The reaction to Prop Hates
promises a new generation of rage and outrage that will pass trans-inclusive
ENDA, overturn DOMA, and enact federal marriage equality.
But just as Stonewall and the gay liberation movement came from anti-war,
women’s liberation and civil rights activism, we will only succeed
if we reinsert ourselves into those activisms. To pass ENDA we must be
part of the labor. To repeal DOMA and attain marriage equality we must
work with women and people of color.
Think of it as Stonewall rebooted. It’s a size fourteen and a half
stiletto. Today in honor of my butch forebears, I’m wearing only
two items of women’s clothing.
Kate Clinton is a nationally recognized political humorist and comedienne.
She writes monthly for The Progressive and The Advocate. Her writing has
also appeared in the New York Times and George Magazine, among others.
The Stonewall Democrats of San Antonio Awards Banquet,
Saturday, September 22 from 6:30 p.m. to 10 p.m. at the Hilton Palacio
del Rio's La Vista Ballroom, 200 South Alamo Street. Tickets are $75 each.
There is a maximum of 8 people per table. Groups with full tables ($600)
will be seated near the front of the banquet room and can choose to have
their table identified with a sign. Click
here for tickets and more information.